There is nothing wrong with being secretive. After all, it is your own secrets that you are trying to keep to yourself. In fact, it is in your own interest not to share your secrets with others. If you share your secrets, they may be used against you in multifarious ways. People may use them to needle you when you fall out of favour. Your secrets may be used to embarrass you or even to torture your mind.
If you are planning something new, don’t discuss your plans with anyone. Keep your plans to yourself. Otherwise, they may steal your plans and get a head-start on the project and finish the project before you even begin to work on it.
Never share intimate details of your life even with the closest of your friends. If you do that you might offer fodder for gossip. And, your secrets will be out in the open and you may have a hard time getting into your damage control mode. But once your secrets are in public domain, the damage is already done. That may force you to avoid some people or places.
Don’t boast about your heroic deeds. Some may become your fans. But many people tend to get jealous and start working against your interests.
Never discuss your educational qualifications unless there is a very real need to do that. If you pose as a highly enlightened person, it might work both ways. And, people may avoid you because that might give rise to complexes. It might also affect their behaviour towards you.
Don’t share your family problems with others. Most of people are not interested in them and some may be happy to learn about them. Family problems form the main topic of discussion in gossip circles. And, before you realise, you may become the laughing stock of the society.
Never discuss unpleasant things you come across or hear about. That is not only in bad taste but may also cause unintended damage to someone.
So, if you are being secretive, there is nothing wrong with it. On the contrary, there’s wisdom in doing that. Your secrecy is your birthright. You have every right to keep it to yourself. Your secrets help you to maintain your dignity and status in the society.
