Some love relationships remain cordial throughout their lives. Some of them seem to lose their charm over the years and turn into mere adjustments. And, there are others where the two people involved have no love lost between them and are just tolerating each other. This is not a singular case. This is true of many cases in the world.
Most relationships are strongest during the early stages where both the persons have strong bonding towards one another. But, as time passes, some of them grow wary of each other. Familiarity breeds contempt, as they say. And, then, the relationship that meant so much to both of them begins to lose its charm.
This happens in quite a few cases of ‘Love at First Sight.’ After the initial infatuation, the relationship begins to take a downturn. In the beginning, they liked everything about each other. Then, after some time, they also develop dislikes with regard to certain behavior. There comes a time where neither wants to talk to the other or even have eye contact with them. If things come to such a pass, it is time to think about a break-up and move on with their respective lives.
If you are living in the past most of the time and spending less and less time living in the present moment, it is time to assess your relationship. If your relationship is at a crossroads where you experience more pain than pleasure, it is time to reassess your relationship.
In love both the persons have to make adjustments…both of them have to make compromises according to the demands of the situation and demands of time. Neither party has the luxury of expecting the other party to change when the party in question is not willing to budge. That is a situation which demands consensus—not confrontation. If such a situation is met with confrontation, there is risk of a worsening situation. There is a risk of fireworks.
If you are repeatedly trying to convince yourself that the actions of the other party are justified, it means that your mind is not in agreement with your action. If either party causes emotional, physical, or verbal abuse to the other party, the relationship is no longer tenable.
If the same matter comes up again and again in spite of your best efforts to put an end to it, it means that the other party is not willing to see your point or consider the situation from a neutral standpoint. If the efforts to keep the relationship intact is one-sided, there is no point in carrying on with the relationship.
When you strike a relationship in a hurry, you hardly find enough time to check out on your compatibility with your partner on fundamental values and beliefs. If there is a wide gap between your value and belief systems, and if both of you are not committed to sort out the issue or work out a compromise formula, it is going to be a lingering problem. And, it is likely to take more than the usual effort from both sides to keep the relationship cemented.
If the relationship becomes a drag on the personal growth of either parties or even one of them, it is not worthwhile to continue the relationship unless you find the desire to patch up on both sides.
If you stay on with the hope that things will get better with time on their own, it is no more than wishful thinking.
If the two of you do not feel the same way about each other, it is indeed time to move on.
