If your life is in a mess, you have to blame yourself for it. When something goes wrong, learn to own up responsibility for that. Don’t play the victim card. Playing the victim card might help you to come out of the situation but it will handicap you for life. If you keep playing the victim card you will never be able to find solutions to your problems.
We create our circumstances through our own speech and actions. We also create our circumstances by badmouthing and inaction. One of the first things that we need to learn is to stop blaming others for our situation.
When something goes wrong with us, we tend to imagine that all hell has broken loose on us—as if the sky has fallen on our head. But we tend to see it under different light when the same thing happens to others.
Instead of trying to understand as to why we fail in our efforts and finding ways to overcome failures, we tend to imagine that successful people owe their success to their luck. We tend to imagine that we are unlucky. So long as we cling to this kind of thought process, we cannot find a way out of such situations. Instead of taking such a worldview, it would be better to find ways to do the right things at the right time.
By doing all these things, we not only mess up our life but actually go one step further and start feeling sorry for ourselves. There can be nothing worse than that. When you mess up things, you have to find your way out of the messy situation. Nobody is going to drop from the sky to pull you out of such a situation.
Stop bitching. Walls have ears. People are gossipmongers. Sooner or later your utterances will catch up with you. And, when it does, that would cause a lot of embarrassment to you and make you feel guilty. You would start feeling that you would have been better off not bitching about the people around you. In fact, you will find it difficult to face people you have been bitching about. Why do something that might put you in such a situation?
Try to understand that you are responsible for what you. You are in-charge of your life. It is nobody’s business to ensure a good life for you or ensure that you lead a happy life. You have to work towards that. If there’s one person who could bring happiness into your life, that’s you. The sooner you realise this and take charge of your life, the better.
Lastly, feeling sorry for yourself will never improve the situation or bring success to your efforts.
